We are not anti-white. We are against white supremacy.
Pro tip: NEVER tell a person to whom a pejorative slur is applied that it has “double meanings”.
The word Gypsy DOES NOT have “double meanings”. The word is a slur.
It started out as a slur, it was used to brand, hang, rape, murder, sterilize, and oppress millions of my people and it is STILL USED THAT WAY TODAY.
This sticky-sweet privileged white argument is so frustrating. You continually erase my people from the Holocaust and from their current suffering because it’s inconvenient to you. I don’t care if you didn’t know that the word “Gypsy” was a slur - you do now - and the correct response is NEVER to tell someone to whom a pejorative word has been applied that it’s not always meant that way.
Any supposed “second meaning” has been applied BY WHITE PEOPLE FOR THEIR OWN ENDS. They have taken the nice and pretty things from MY ethnicity and have decided they don’t WANT the rest. So, when they are a “Gypsy” it’s just living without rules, in a caravan, with nice flowy skirts and long hair, smoking weed, wearing no shoes, being half naked in a field …
and the only people who do this are white girls in America.
Because if you pretended to be a Gypsy in Europe, you’d be treated like one, and honestly you girls would run screaming at the first skinhead you saw.
Oh, but wait, when they come after you for your ethnicity you can tell them it has a double meaning, right? That you don’t really mean Gypsy, you just mean hipster boho bubblegum bullshit that has NOTHING AT ALL to do with a real ethnicity.
Do you realize how offensive your words are? Probably not, or you wouldn’t have sent them. At least I hope you wouldn’t.
Most people on Tumblr who use the word perhaps don’t realize the full extent of the word “Gypsy” - just how horrible a word it is - but when they find out? I get bullshit like this in my inbox every day.
Every day I hear: Oh but I didn’t mean it as a slur, so it isn’t one!! Intent isn’t magical. Intent doesn’t erase the decades of pain and hurt and death contained in a word. You can put a pig in a dress and call it a lady, but it’s just a fucking pig in a dress.
You can’t change the meaning of a slur JUST BECAUSE YOU WANT TO. It doesn’t work that way.
You do the same with Native communities here - you take their headdresses and their bead work and their stories and twist them into ugly caricatures and you coral them behind fences so you don’t have to deal with the reality of a word and a horror that YOU created.
In fact, mostly you’re the same people, playing dress up as “injuns” and “Gyppos” because your lives are so boring and white and bland. If you had to live even one day as a real Gypsy you wouldn’t want the epithet any longer.
Stop with your excuses and your privilege. It makes me feel sick.
Gypsy is a slur. Period. And some white girl claiming otherwise doesn’t change a damn thing.
These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women.”
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.
The bolded portions. Yes. All of this rings true. I cannot speak to a male without having this thrown in my face.
The requirement that a woman maintain a smooth and hairless skin carries further the theme of inexperience, for an infantilized face must accompany her infantilized body, a face that never ages or furrows its brow in thought. The face of the ideally feminine woman must never display the marks of character, wisdom, and experience that we so admire in men.